Much of the preaching and teaching down through the centuries of Christianity, women have been told to submit, submit, submit. At the same time, men have abused their positions by demanding, declaring, and controlling women without loving them, as is our spiritual duty under Christ. Now, in modern Christianity, women are conditioned and have been over the past few generations to abandon God’s very call on their lives. It’s to the point that no one even sees the wrong being done.
God placed the most important function of daily survival in the hands of women, yet the church, society and personal ambition have robbed Christian women of God’s direct call on their lives. In fact, in many churches it would be considered church incorrect to speak of the topic being written. In the goal of being coming a Proverbs 31 woman, parents and churches alike are training young Christian women to enter the work force and forge a name for herself when Scripture is clearly stating the opposite. Titus 2:3-5 ”The aged women likewise, that [they be] in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”
The Scripture is clear that older women are to train younger women to be keepers of home. The Greek word oikouros (oy-koo-ros') means caring for the home, working at home, and managing the home. Older women are also to teach the skills required to do so. The purpose is clear too: that God not be blasphemed. The Greek word blasphemeo (blas-fay-meh'-o) means to speak against God, slander or insult Him. This concept is reinforced by Proverbs 31 woman’s example; all she did was done from home. This is radical thinking for our time, but its roots are deep within the faith. We have given the enemies of God a way to blaspheme the one we love the most, our Father in heaven.
In light of this, I believe we should take equally radical steps to correct the problem. One such solution, not the only one mind you: rather than sending daughters off to college, let them remain at home and work until they marry the one God brings into their lives. They can become involved in Christian service and save their incomes for when they do marry while their parents can save for them the money that would have been spent on a college education. Then when she weds, the combined saving in many cases may be enough to purchase a modest first home: she saves $10-$15,000 a year working and living at home and her parents save $5-$15,000, in many cases even more, in college expenses for four years. The total would be between $60-$120,000 not counting the interest. Meantime, this would also allow another principle of God’s Word to be applied, one which is much over looked and is both in the New and Old Testament. Gen 2:24, Mt 19:5, Mk 10:7 and Eph. 5:31 “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.” This cause being marriage, not independence as our American culture has taught us.
We are in a day and age where we must return to the Scriptures for answers. We must let God’s Word direct our lives rather then continue to let our culture’s thinking and ways of living invade our hearts and minds. Our thinking has been blurred by the culture we live in, to our shame. It is we, through Christ-like thinking and living, that is to blur the world’s view, not the world ours.